This past Father’s Day marked the third year since the passing of my Dad. Having June 17 fall on Father’s Day 2018 made it a hard moment; June 17, 2015, is the day my Dad left this world.
I had an extraordinary father and who is deeply missed.
My Dad served the role of father for both sides of our family; my side and for my wife.
My wife’s father was everything a father should not be including an alcoholic who sought no help. While my wife was growing up, her Dad abandoned his family not only financially but emotionally and spiritually. He never showed up to give his daughter away at her wedding. He was not present to know any of grandchildren.
He went to his grave a complete absence from our lives, and we had to hear rumors he had passed away; the truth only to be confirmed long after his death.
My father was a super role model in so many ways. He was a wonderful grandfather and great-grandfather. (My father Bob Harris with some of his great-grandchildren.)
He always found time to be involved in so many family and friends lives. Many of my cousins and friends’ fathers died young, and my Dad stepped up to take on that role. My cousins and friends paid tribute to my Dad at his Celebration of Life for the fatherly role he played in their lives.
My Mom passed away a couple of years before my Dad, and he took this hard. My parents were married for over 62 years.
My Dad’s health was not the greatest after Mom died and for the last year of his life I took him to medical emergency monthly.
Time: My Greatest Return on Investment Real Estate
I know for a fact that if it were not for my investment real estate, I would not been in the position to support my father in the last years of his life.
Who knew as I began my investment real estate journey 16 years ago the most significant return on my investment would be time; time that I could give to my Dad and support him in his later years.
Not only was I able to take the time to ensure my Dad got the medical attention he required we were able to spend time together weekly over a coffee and an Old Fashioned Plain Donut at Tim Horton’s; sporting and recreational events and many family functions.
What is Your Father’s Day Litmus Test?
- Are You Treating Your Daughter or Son In Law like your child?
- Are you invested financially, emotionally and spiritually with your children?
- How are you enhancing the character of your family?
- How are you helping other family and friends deal with the loss of a parent?
- What role are you playing at special events, birthdays, graduations, sporting and recreational activities?
- Are you creating quality time to do the little things?
Can you look in the mirror and ask yourself all of these questions and answer yes to most?
If so you will be fondly remembered for pulling Double Dad Duties.
Have a Great Journey until Next Father’s Day!!